“DON’T FALL INTO DESPAIR”: Rav Yitzchok Yosef Sends Heartfelt Letter to Devastated Bus Driver Following Fatal Modiin Illit Accident
Rav Yitzchok Yosef, the former Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel, has sent a deeply moving letter of encouragement to a bus driver who was involved in a tragic accident that claimed the life of a young child in Modiin Illit, urging the emotionally shattered driver not to surrender to despair and to find strength in Torah learning and his responsibility to his family.
The letter was revealed by journalist Moshe Mans during a broadcast of Kikar HaShabbat’s Davar Rishon program, in which he recounted an emotional conversation with the driver, who has reportedly been struggling with overwhelming anguish since the accident.
The tragedy occurred on Avnei Nezer Street in Modiin Illit, where a young boy riding a scooter entered a pedestrian crossing and was fatally struck by a bus.
According to Mans, footage of the accident indicates that the child entered the crossing at high speed, leaving the driver without sufficient time to stop the vehicle and prevent the collision.
Despite the circumstances, the driver has been devastated by the knowledge that a child lost his life in an accident involving his bus.
Mans described the driver as a gentle, highly respected individual whose emotional condition has deteriorated significantly since the tragedy.
“I came to him after seeing messages in groups about a broken and shattered man sitting in his home,” Mans related.
“This is a precious driver whom everyone knows, and the footage also proves that he had absolutely no possibility of stopping. The child suddenly entered the pedestrian crossing at high speed, and the driver had no way of preventing the tragedy.”
Mans said that even though the available footage appeared to support the driver’s account of the accident, the driver remained consumed by grief and guilt.
“And yet, when I speak with him, he cries bitterly,” Mans continued.
The driver described the terrible emotional toll the incident has taken on his daily life.
“I have no day and no night. I cannot pick up my children. I have no life,” the driver told Mans.
The journalist said the conversation left a profound impression on him, illustrating how a fatal accident can devastate not only the family of the victim but also a driver who may have been powerless to prevent it.
During their conversation, the driver made an emotional appeal to parents, asking them to speak to their children about the dangers of entering pedestrian crossings without first checking for approaching traffic.
“Beg on your program for parents to tell their children that even when they reach a pedestrian crossing, they should stop for a second and look,” the driver pleaded.
“A bus driver or the driver of a tall vehicle cannot always see a child who suddenly enters the road at high speed.”
The driver hoped that publicizing his experience would encourage parents to reinforce basic road-safety precautions with their children and potentially prevent another family from experiencing a similar tragedy.
Mans expressed sympathy both for the grieving family of the child and for the driver, who continues to struggle with the emotional aftermath of the accident.
The story took an especially moving turn when Rav Yitzchok Yosef learned of the driver’s condition and sent him a personal letter offering guidance and encouragement.
In the letter, Rav Yosef acknowledged the terrible tragedy while emphasizing that the incident had occurred unintentionally.
“I heard about the tragic incident that occurred through you inadvertently and without intent,” Rav Yosef wrote.
He then addressed the driver’s emotional condition directly, warning him against allowing his grief to develop into prolonged despair.
“Know that it is the advice of the yetzer hara that you should fall into sadness and despair,” Rav Yosef wrote.
“The wheel cannot be turned backward, because everything is from Heaven.”
Rav Yosef explained that although the driver was understandably shaken by the tragedy, allowing himself to become overwhelmed by depression would only create further suffering for himself and those who depend on him.
“What will it accomplish if you fall into deep melancholy? It will harm you and your family, and the damage will outweigh the benefit,” he wrote.
The former chief rabbi then offered the driver practical spiritual guidance, encouraging him to transform his anguish into meaningful actions that would benefit the neshamah of the child.
“Therefore, my advice is that you establish and add time for Torah learning for the elevation of his soul, strengthen yourself in Torah and mitzvos, and divert your thoughts as much as possible so that you can continue raising your children.”
The letter reflected Rav Yosef’s effort to help the driver find a path forward while recognizing the profound emotional pain caused by the tragedy.
Rather than allowing the accident to consume his life, Rav Yosef encouraged him to dedicate additional time to Torah learning l’ilui nishmas the child and to draw strength from continued observance of Torah and mitzvos.
He also emphasized the driver’s responsibilities toward his own children, urging him to regain the emotional strength necessary to continue caring for and raising his family.
The account has drawn attention to the lasting psychological impact that fatal traffic accidents can have on drivers, even in cases where the circumstances indicate that they may have had little opportunity to avoid the collision.
In this case, Mans said the driver was not seeking to minimize the tragedy or distance himself from the suffering of the bereaved family.
On the contrary, his anguish was so intense that he described himself as unable to function normally in his own home.
His appeal to parents focused on a practical lesson from the tragedy: children must understand that a pedestrian crossing does not eliminate the need to stop, look, and make sure that approaching vehicles can see them and have sufficient time to stop.
The driver’s warning was particularly directed toward children riding scooters, who may enter a crossing more quickly than a motorist can reasonably anticipate.
For the driver, the accident has become a source of continuing emotional torment.
Rav Yosef’s letter sought to provide him with a measure of comfort, reminding him that he cannot undo what happened and encouraging him to direct his energy toward Torah, mitzvos, and his family.
The tragedy has left a family mourning the loss of a young child and a driver struggling to come to terms with his involvement in the accident.
Through his letter, Rav Yosef offered the driver a message of chizuk: to resist despair, increase his Torah learning in memory of the child, and find the strength to continue living and caring for his family.
{Matzav.com}
