“He Did Not Pass Away — He Went Away for a Short Time”: Rav Yitzchok Zilberstein Speaks at Levayah of Bochur Who Drowned
Klal Yisroel remains in deep mourning following the tragic petirah of habochur Yehoshua Raam z”l, a talmid of Yeshivas Grodna–Be’er Yaakov, who drowned at Ein Akev in the Negev. At his levayah, Rav Yitzchok Zilberstein delivered words of chizuk and hisorerus, offering a perspective that moved all those present.
The niftar, the son of Rav Yisroel Noam Raam, a longtime talmid of Rav Zilberstein in Kollel Beis Dovid, was widely regarded as an exceptional ben Torah. His sudden passing has left the yeshiva world shaken, especially in light of the painful series of tragedies affecting bnei yeshivos in recent times.
Rav Zilberstein, who maintained a close connection with the family, expressed his anguish upon hearing the news and told the father earlier that day, “Everyone is sitting and crying; all of Klal Yisroel is crying together with you.”
On his way to the levayah, which began at the family’s home on Rechov Ben Zakai in Bnei Brak, the rav explained that formal hespedim would not be delivered due to the month of Nissan. Instead, he said he would offer words of nechamah. “To say words of eulogy is forbidden, since it is the month of Nissan, and to say words of strengthening and awakening for the generation — I am not worthy. Each person knows what he himself needs to strengthen and improve, and therefore I will say a few words of consolation to the dear parents.”
At the levayah, no formal hespedim were delivered — only divrei hisorerus, including remarks from the mashgiach of Grodna Be’er Yaakov, Rav Nechemia Friedlander. The procession went from the home to Yeshivas Tiferes Tzion, where the bochur had learned in his youth, and then to the beis hachaim in Elad, where he was laid to rest.
Rav Zilberstein opened his remarks by acknowledging the overwhelming shock. “We are standing here in astonishment. Words of eulogy are forbidden, and therefore we will not say them. But I want to share with this holy gathering a few thoughts that I heard from my rabbeim.”
He then shared a remarkable story. “I was walking in the street in Bnei Brak and saw a child standing with his father. The child said, ‘Father, you should know — in that house above they are giving shiurim, here they are reviewing, and here they are writing chiddushei Torah.’ The father stood there stunned and did not understand what was happening. He later met me, and I told him that I was going to my brother-in-law, Rav Chaim, the gadol hador, to tell him what happened and hear what he would say.”
He continued, recounting Rav Chaim Kanievsky’s response. “We came to Rav Chaim Kanievsky, and he said to me: I believe this child had already been in this world, and for some reason HaKadosh Baruch Hu decreed that he should return again. The meaning of this is that he had learned in this yeshiva in a previous gilgul. Usually a person forgets what was in a previous gilgul — but in this case, he did not forget. That is why the child was repeating things that had already taken place here. One must know that such a thing exists — that is what Rav Chaim told me.”
Speaking about the niftar, Rav Zilberstein praised both him and his family. “We are all learning in the same yeshiva with this great father — truly a glory, he and his family. And this righteous bochur was something extraordinary; he learned in a truly remarkable way. I have heard amazing things about him — that during this time of war, when others were not learning as much, he continued learning with incredible dedication. They say he sat and learned without interruption, and it is surely true. We know the father — may he be well — his mouth never stopped from learning.”
He then offered a deeply moving perspective. “It is possible — I am only sharing thoughts of the heart — that he may return again. I say this to the father: these are not words of consolation, but one must know that such a concept exists in Torah. He was here.”
Rav Zilberstein then delivered the line that left a profound impression on those present. “I want to tell you a fact: he did not pass away — he went away for a short time. It may be so. According to what my brother-in-law told me, this is not a permanent departure. He has gone for a short time and will return. This is temporary. You see the chevra kadisha here — it may be that what they are doing now is only temporary. He may yet return, whether you will know it or not.”
He continued in that vein: “This is not a case of someone who passed away and is gone forever. This burial is temporary. That is how one must look at it. This is not forever. This is the way HaKadosh Baruch Hu conducts His world with great mercy.”
At the end of his remarks, Rav Zilberstein proposed a meaningful initiative. “We, the members of the kollel, will do something. I will tell you my plan: We will publish a sefer of chiddushei Torah in his memory. You will write your pearls, and each of us will contribute as well. We will publish it, publicize it, and learn from it. We will accomplish great things in the world for the elevation of his neshamah. We will merit the coming of Mashiach speedily in our days, and you will have much nachas — amen.”
After Kaddish, just before the levayah departed, family members told Rav Zilberstein that they had discovered a personal notebook belonging to the bochur. For the past six months, he had written a daily cheshbon hanefesh, recording his personal spiritual reflections. At the beginning of the notebook, he had written “cheirem d’Rabbeinu Gershom.”
The rav was visibly moved and responded, “Now it is certainly permitted to read the notebook — and it is even a mitzvah to read it and strengthen oneself from it. In the sefer we will publish, we will include, bli neder, portions of the notebook, so that others will see and learn. From him, they will see — and so they will do.”
{Matzav.com}
