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Not Every Marital Fight Has a Solution – But It Can Still Have Peace | Chayi Hanfling, LCSW

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Some issues in life are binary. There’s no compromise available and you and your spouse are at a stand-off. You can either live in Monsey or Lakewood, (those are the only two options right?) but not both. You need to choose only one school to send your child to, and you can’t have both pizza and a BBQ for supper. So what do you do when you have discussed the issue with your spouse extensively and neither of your opinions have budged? Many couples make the mistake of thinking that they have been talking to each other when they have really been talking at each-other. Each one goes into the discussion with a mission- convince my husband/wife that my way is the best way. They respond to their spouse’s talking points like they’re on a debate team and even if they’re smart enough to pretend to validate the other’s points before launching into their counter arguments, the goal of the conversation is to reach a decision. Since it’s a zero sum victory, they have no doubt about what conclusion they are looking for. Rivky and her husband, Nachum, are arguing about whether he should go to Uman for Rosh Hashanah. She insists that she will have a miserable yomtov with him gone and he feels that he will have a miserable yomtov if he doesn’t go. Even if the fight doesn’t escalate, they stay calm and no one says anything harsh, they still end up frustrated at the dilemma- who should end up miserable for Rosh Hashanah? Rivky and Nachum have had several conversations about this- each one reaching a dead end. Because they each feel like something important is at stake, they pay lip service (or ear service?) to hearing out their spouse and then immediately try to explain why their spouse shouldn’t feel the way they do. This leads to pain, frustration and unresolved yomtov plans. Instead, Rivky and Nachum should decide that they are going to have a discussion about the issue, but no matter what, they are not going to come to a decision in this discussion. This frees them up to listen to their spouse with openness since the stakes are lower. The rules are simple. Each one listens to the other with genuine curiosity and openness. They ask clarifying questions and reflect their understanding back to their spouse. When that spouse feels that they have been understood then they switch roles. And that’s it. No one is allowed counter-arguments. No one is allowed to try to convince the other. This conversation is not about the resolution or the result, it’s about the process. Now when Nachum is explaining how important it is to him to go to Uman, Rivky can listen with interest and without feeling panicked that she needs to change his mind. No decision will be immediately made. When Rivky shares her fears about being alone for yomtov, he can validate those feelings without feeling like he needs to convince her that it is not a big deal and so many people do it. The obvious issue with all this is that the issue is still not resolved. The problem is still binary and everyone may still feel the same. And yet, nothing is the same. When people feel that they are […]

Netanyahu Declares: “Never Again Is Now” as Israel Strikes Deep Into Iran [SEE THE FULL VIDEO]

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In a dramatic late-night address as explosions lit up the skies over Iran, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu announced the launch of a sweeping military campaign aimed at crippling Iran’s nuclear and military capabilities — a move he described as a defining moment in Israel’s history. “We are at a decisive point,” Netanyahu declared solemnly. “Our brave pilots are attacking a large number of targets across Iran.” The prime minister confirmed that the strikes — part of a long-anticipated operation — are focused on Iran’s nuclear infrastructure, ballistic missile factories, and other key military assets. “This operation will continue until the mission is completed,” he said, vowing that Israel will not back down. The strikes, which have reportedly hit near Tehran, Natanz, and Fordow thus far, follow months of rising tensions and intelligence indicating that Iran has enriched enough uranium for nine nuclear bombs. Netanyahu said Iran had recently taken “unprecedented steps” toward weaponization, accelerating the need for immediate action. “Iran has significant capabilities to harm us,” Netanyahu warned, “but we have prepared for that as well.” He urged Israelis to fully adhere to Home Front Command directives, as the nation shifts into emergency footing. Netanyahu painted a grim picture of the threat Israel faces. “Iran has built a massive store of ballistic missiles,” he said. “Each one carries a ton of explosives and can reach Israel from Iran within minutes. They planned to produce 20,000 of them in the next six years. We are operating to remove them before it’s too late.” In his most forceful remarks, Netanyahu invoked the haunting memory of Jewish history to justify the offensive. “We cannot leave these threats for the next generation,” he said. “Because if we don’t act now, there will not be another generation. If we don’t act now, we simply won’t be here. ‘Never Again’ is now.” He added, “When an enemy says he intends to destroy you — believe him. When he develops the capabilities to do so — stop him.” Netanyahu also thanked U.S. President Donald Trump for his support. “Time and again, he made it clear: Iran must never be allowed to obtain nuclear weapons,” Netanyahu said. “I thank him for his consistent support of our country throughout the years of his presidency.” In a striking moment, Netanyahu addressed the Iranian people directly. “We do not hate you. You are not our enemies. We have a common enemy: a tyrannical regime that tramples you,” he said. “I have no doubt your day of liberation is closer than ever. When that day comes, Israelis and Iranians will once again be partners in building a future of peace and prosperity.” Netanyahu positioned Israel not only as defending itself, but as standing on the front lines of a global battle. “We are defending the free world from the terrorism and barbarism that Iran fosters and exports across the globe,” he said. “Many around the world — even if they won’t say so openly — know in their hearts: thanks to your determination and courage, citizens of Israel, and thanks to the bravery of Israel’s fighters, the world will be a safer place.” “Hard days lie ahead,” Netanyahu concluded, “but also great days. What we do today will be etched into the annals of Israel and of all nations as a […]

NETANYAHU FULL STATEMENT ON IRAN STRIKE:

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FULL STATEMENT:,Prime Minister Netanyahu: “Moments ago, Israel launched Operation Rising Lion, a targeted military operation to roll back the Iranian threat to Israel’s very survival. This operation will continue for as many days as it takes to remove this threat.”

Report: Republicans Lay Groundwork For ‘Total Tax Cliff’ At End Of Trump’s Term

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Republican lawmakers are preparing for a significant fiscal turning point that could arrive as President Trump’s term ends. While they are advocating for the permanent extension of the 2017 tax law, other provisions aimed at aiding everyday Americans are scheduled to expire in 2028.

“This is going to be front and center in the next presidential campaign,” said Rep. Andy Harris (R-Md.), who leads the House Freedom Caucus.

Among the provisions slated to expire are enhancements to the standard deduction and the child tax credit, as well as the elimination of taxes on tips, car loan interest, overtime earnings, and an extra deduction for seniors — all of which are currently part of the House’s broader domestic policy package.

Fiscal conservatives argue that this creates another looming fiscal cliff, much like the expiration of the 2017 tax law itself, which Republicans are currently working to extend before its provisions lapse at the end of this year.

“There’s a total tax cliff in there. There’s about $1.5 trillion worth of taxes that expire in four years, five years, which means what? In five years, they’ll just keep them going. This is why we end up with the same problem,” Rep. Chip Roy (R-Texas) remarked. “It is 100 percent a gimmick to have tax cuts that you’re putting in place for four or five years,” he added.

The Senate is expected to significantly alter the legislation, including potentially redefining budget calculations so that the trillions of dollars in deficit additions caused by extending previous tax breaks are excluded from official projections.

Nevertheless, several senators have voiced support for preserving the core elements of the 2017 Tax Cuts and Jobs Act (TCJA), while allowing more recent tax breaks targeted at families, consumers, and retirees to expire.

“The general feeling of Senate Finance is the TCJA — we need to make that permanent. We need to make the business provisions — the expensing, the R&D provisions — we need to make those permanent. The other things, I think we should discuss it,” said Sen. Ron Johnson (R-Wis.), a member of the Senate Finance Committee.

Sen. John Hoeven (R-N.D.) emphasized the importance of long-term certainty but suggested that not all the expiring tax breaks are guaranteed to stay in the final bill.

“Our intent is to make the tax cuts permanent. Now, something like the child tax credit, with a huge transfer payment aspect to it, I’d have to say that’s something I’d have to check on. Other tax cuts and reductions, depending on score and how the votes come down, that could change,” he noted.

Most of the temporary cuts were initiatives President Trump introduced during his campaign. These proposals targeted distinct voter groups and were introduced quickly and frequently during the lead-up to the election. Reuters reported that seven different tax policies were floated just in the two months before voters headed to the polls.

During a campaign event in Detroit last October, Trump advocated for making interest on car loans fully deductible — a direct appeal to workers in the auto capital of the U.S. In June, while in Las Vegas, he pledged to eliminate taxes on tips, targeting a state dominated by the hospitality industry. He also introduced a caregiver tax credit at a Madison Square Garden rally, aiming to support the millions of New Yorkers caring for relatives.

Many policy experts — on both sides of the ideological divide — have expressed skepticism or outright disapproval of these additional Trump proposals.

“I would prefer those things would be completely off the list,” said Daniel Bunn, head of the conservative-leaning Tax Foundation, in a November interview. “It’s not good policy. It does not move in the same direction that the 2017 reforms work.”

Echoing that view from the other side of the spectrum, William Gale from the liberal Urban-Brookings Tax Policy Center wrote that removing taxes on tips is problematic. “The obvious problem is that the proposals are inconsistent with sound tax policy. The less obvious problem is that exempting tips would not even help the vast majority of low-income workers,” he explained.

Although Senate Republicans seem inclined to maintain a distinction between permanent and temporary tax changes, many are wary of repeating past mistakes by letting certain cuts expire, thus fueling future political battles.

“They’re doing that for only four years, and all of a sudden that stops? I’m not real high on tax policy that expires,” Johnson said in reference to the no-tax-on-tips proposal. “If it’s good enough to include, let’s make it permanent. Let’s have that discussion.”

The Senate does have more leeway than the House, owing to its more favorable budget rules, which may allow up to $5.5 trillion in tax reductions to bypass official scoring.

Still, fiscal hawks in both the House and Senate are worried about the impact of the plan on the national debt — a concern that has contributed to volatility in the bond market and broader financial unease.

Last week, the Congressional Budget Office (CBO) projected that the House version of the bill would swell the deficit by $2.4 trillion over the next ten years.

A subsequent CBO report, requested by Democratic lawmakers, added that interest payments alone stemming from the legislation would amount to $551 billion over a decade — driving the total deficit increase to $3 trillion.

Republican leaders have tried to undermine the CBO’s findings, but discontent over the plan’s costs — and its meager projected economic benefits — has spread through both Capitol Hill and the White House.

The Joint Committee on Taxation (JCT) projected the bill would only lift GDP growth from 1.83 percent to 1.86 percent over the long term, barely above the Federal Reserve’s current 1.8 percent outlook.

“The Democrat inspired and ‘controlled’ Congressional Budget Office (CBO) purposefully gave us an extremely low level of growth, 1.8 percent over 10 years — how ridiculous and unpatriotic is that!” Trump wrote on social media earlier this month.

One JCT forecast shows the plan could shrink the nation’s capital stock by nearly 1 percent during the budget period, which would result in reduced economic output overall.

“The first and second half effects result in a decrease of 0.1 percent on average over the entire budget window,” the JCT reported.

Democrats have pounced on the temporary nature of many Trump-backed tax breaks as proof that the legislation overwhelmingly benefits the wealthy — even though the bill does lock in lower tax rates for those with modest incomes.

“Why is this bill designed to take away some of the benefits that you claim people are going to have?” Rep. Gwen Moore (D-Wis.) asked Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent during a hearing. “The senior tax credit expires. … No taxes on tips expires.”

Though the bill enshrines reduced tax rates for lower earners, projections indicate it will still favor the wealthiest Americans, contributing to greater income inequality.

According to JCT data, half the benefit from the passthrough deduction — worth over $200 billion in 2022 — was claimed by the top 1 percent of earners by adjusted gross income.

{Matzav.com}

House Approves Trump’s Request To Cut Funding For NPR, PBS And Foreign Aid

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The House narrowly voted Thursday to cut about $9.4 billion in spending already approved by Congress as President Donald Trump’s administration looks to follow through on work done by the Department of Government Efficiency when it was overseen by Elon Musk. The package targets foreign aid programs and the Corporation for Public Broadcasting, which provides money for National Public Radio and the Public Broadcasting Service as well as thousands of public radio and television stations around the country. The vote was 214-212. Republicans are characterizing the spending as wasteful and unnecessary, but Democrats say the rescissions are hurting the United States’ standing in the world and will lead to needless deaths. “Cruelty is the point,” Democratic leader Hakeem Jeffries of New York said of the proposed spending cuts. The Trump administration is employing a tool rarely used in recent years that allows the president to transmit a request to Congress to cancel previously appropriated funds. That triggers a 45-day clock in which the funds are frozen pending congressional action. If Congress fails to act within that period, then the spending stands. “Under President Trump’s leadership, your taxpayer dollars are no longer being wasted,” House Speaker Mike Johnson said after the vote. “Instead, they are being directed toward priorities that truly benefit the American people.” The benefit for the administration of a formal rescissions request is that passage requires only a simple majority in the 100-member Senate instead of the 60 votes usually required to get spending bills through that chamber. So if they stay largely united, Republicans will be able to pass the measure without any Democratic votes. Senate Majority Leader John Thune, R-S.D., said the Senate would likely not take the bill up until July and after it has dealt with Trump’s big tax and immigration bill. He also said it’s possible the Senate could tweak the bill. The administration is likening the first rescissions package to a test case and says more could be on the way if Congress goes along. Republicans, sensitive to concerns that Trump’s sweeping tax and immigration bill would increase future federal deficits, are anxious to demonstrate spending discipline, though the cuts in the package amount to just a sliver of the spending approved by Congress each year. They are betting the cuts prove popular with constituents who align with Trump’s “America first” ideology as well as those who view NPR and PBS as having a liberal bias. Four Republicans voted against the measure — Reps. Mark Amodei of Nevada, Brian Fitzpatrick of Pennsylvania, Nicole Malliotakis of New York and Mike Turner of Ohio. No Democrats voted for the measure. The bill looked like it was in danger of going down, but two lawmakers — Reps. Don Bacon of Nebraska and Nick LaLota of New York — changed their votes to yes, allowing it to advance to the Senate. LaLota had an extensive conversation with Johnson on the House floor as Johnson could be seen trying to win him over. Afterward, LaLota called it “private discussions” to make sure “my constituents will get what they need.” Bacon said he was reassured by House Republican leadership that PBS would receiving funding for next year. He said he was also told that funding for the U.S.-led global response to HIV, known as PEPFAR, will not be […]

ALL A TRICK: Netanyahu’s Insistence He Was Going On Vacation Was Apparently A Ruse

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Yesterday afternoon, the office of the Israeli Prime Minister made it a point to inform journalists that Binyomin Netanyahu was indeed set to take a vacation this weekend: “As opposed to reports spread online,” the prime minister did not cancel his trip to the north.

This clarification seems to be a deliberate tactic aimed at convincing Iranian intelligence that there would be no impending strike over the weekend.

It is also worth mentioning that the wedding of Netanyahu’s son Avner, planned for Monday, is now expected to be delayed.

{Matzav.com Israel}

How Hamas Turned Aid To Gaza Into a Profit Machine: IDF Reveals Documents and Recordings

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The GHF humanitarian organization, based in the United States, issued a scathing denunciation of Hamas following a deadly assault on a bus transporting aid workers in Gaza. Simultaneously, the Israeli military exposed Hamas’s systematic diversion and misuse of humanitarian supplies intended for the residents of the region.

An IDF spokesperson revealed that during the conflict, Hamas personnel infiltrated aid deliveries—sometimes posing as civilians and other times joining openly—to hijack supplies earmarked for the local population. According to Israeli intelligence, which relied on both intercepted communications and internal documentation, Hamas declared itself the controlling body over aid distribution in Gaza. In reality, the group commandeered sizable portions for its own benefit. Internal records showed that Hamas mandated quotas—ranging from 15% to over 25%—of incoming aid to be taken regularly for its own use.

One such document, uncovered in Gaza and released to the public on Thursday, demonstrated an official Hamas directive specifying how much aid should be seized, with adjustments made periodically based on internal evaluations. The seized aid was either sold in Gaza’s markets for profit or directed to Hamas operatives and officials. Other findings revealed Hamas’s involvement in the smuggling of cigarettes into Gaza, which were then sold at inflated prices by Hamas members. Independent sellers were reportedly threatened to ensure compliance with this monopolistic practice. The IDF estimates that Hamas earned hundreds of millions of shekels through these illicit operations, often using the existing infrastructure of aid groups—whether through deceit or cooperation.

As part of its intelligence release, the IDF shared visuals and documents outlining four primary methods of Hamas’s exploitation: confiscation, smuggling, unlawful deductions, and extortion. These materials included charts illustrating the flow of foreign funds, transcripts of intercepted calls between Gaza residents describing the situation, and official Hamas communications—some translated—showing how aid was internally allocated.

In one intercepted phone call played by the IDF, two residents of Gaza discussed how Hamas looted flour from UNRWA warehouses and sold it at exorbitant rates. “They got the flour for free; they are selling it for 120 shekels, while I sell it for 60,” one man lamented. He continued, saying Hamas had raided UNRWA mills and stolen their inventory. The tone of the conversation was bitter and angry, with the speaker exclaiming, “To hell with them… Whatever happens to them—it’s not enough. They all are thieves. They all are dogs.”

The Israeli military also discovered that Hamas maintained strong financial relationships with networks in Turkey and Iran, relying on informal money transfer systems like hawala. These systems enabled the covert movement of funds into Gaza, which were then used to buy humanitarian goods that had been diverted and resold for profit.

In addition, Hamas reportedly extorted “security fees” from aid agencies, local vendors, and small business owners. Intelligence assessments indicate that the group used its dominance over the region to take over multiple sectors of commerce, impose heavy-handed taxes, and ensure that financial activity remained under its control.

Amid these revelations, the GHF, which operates independently of Hamas, condemned the recent attack on one of its buses transporting aid workers. The organization said the incident left five dead, several injured, and others possibly abducted. “The attack did not happen in a vacuum. For days, Hamas has openly threatened our team, our aid workers and the civilians who receive aid from us. Their threats have been met with silence,” GHF said in a statement.

Hamas claimed the people targeted were affiliated with the Abu Shabab militia, which it accused of being armed by Israel. However, representatives from that militia firmly rejected the accusation and released a statement identifying Hamas members allegedly behind the assault. “The blood of your workers has been spilled—and we will reveal all the evidence,” the statement warned the local population.

The IDF reported that beginning in March, when Israel briefly paused humanitarian shipments, Hamas experienced a severe financial crunch. This included diminished cash reserves and delays in paying its fighters. In response, Israel instituted a stringent regulatory system that includes registration of aid organizations, customs oversight, thorough security checks, and product restrictions—with penalties for non-compliance.

At present, the flow of humanitarian assistance is managed largely by global agencies under GHF’s security coordination. This structure is designed to exclude Hamas from the distribution process entirely.

“This is clear evidence for the world,” said the IDF spokesperson. “Hamas does not protect Gaza’s civilians—it cynically exploits them for military and financial gain. The IDF will continue to ensure that aid reaches civilians, not the terror group.”

{Matzav.com Israel}

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