Matzav Inbox: Assassination in the Frum Community
Dear Matzav Inbox,
The tragic assassination of Charlie Kirk has been seared into the public consciousness. It is an act so violent, so brazen, that it forces every decent human being to pause and reflect.
And it got me thinking: Baruch Hashem, in our frum community, we do not see physical assassinations. Guns are not drawn. Shots are not fired.
But let us not fool ourselves. We are not free of blood on our hands. We have our own form of assassination, and it is one that is all too common.
I am talking about character assassination.
It is a plague that has infected certain corners of our community. If we don’t like a person, if their hashkafah doesn’t align neatly with ours, if their psak isn’t the one we’d prefer, if their bais din doesn’t rule in our favor, we don’t simply disagree. We assassinate. We take a scalpel to their reputation. We whisper in the shadows, we spread sly insinuations, we post venom under the cover of anonymity, and we slash apart another Jew’s dignity with the same cruelty as a bullet.
Let us be honest: in some ways, this kind of murder is even more insidious. A physical assassination is obvious, horrific, undeniable. But a character assassination is slow, corrosive, and often justified under the guise of “concern for the community” or “l’sheim Shomayim.” Lashon hara is dressed up as responsibility, rechilus parades as truth-seeking, and before long, good people’s names are lying in tatters on the floor.
I cannot count how many times I have seen this play out. Someone stands for a different approach in chinuch, and suddenly he is a “dangerous innovator.” A rov rules a certain way in halacha, and within hours, the “knowledgeable” chatterers have branded him “ignorant” or “reckless.” A member of a bais din issues an unpopular decision, and people act as though they are now licensed to destroy his reputation for life. We pounce with glee. We circulate half-truths and innuendo until the victim is crushed beneath the weight of communal disdain.
And all of it is done, of course, in the name of frumkeit. Of course.
This, my friends, is nothing less than assassination. The Torah teaches us that malbin pnei chaveiro b’rabim—to shame someone in public—is akin to spilling blood. The comparison is not poetic; it is precise. When you kill a man’s character, when you erase his reputation, you may leave him walking, but you have bled his soul dry.
So no, baruch Hashem, we don’t have assassins lurking with rifles in our shuls. But make no mistake, we have assassinations. We allow it, we tolerate it, and sometimes we allow people in our own communities to even cheer it on. And the damage is no less devastating. Families are shattered. Careers are destroyed. Talmidei chachomim are defamed. Rabbonim, even gedolim, are humiliated. And Klal Yisroel is weakened.
And I must ask: How did we get here? When did our community become so quick to destroy? When did our zeal for the emes morph into a license for cruelty? When did the ruach hatumah of cancel culture seep into our own ranks, turning every minor disagreement into an excuse for major character destruction?
We cry out when outsiders speak against us. We rally when the world mocks our way of life. But inside our own walls, we commit the very violence we decry. The assassination of character has become a national pastime, and it is tearing us apart from within.
It is time to call this out for what it is. It is time for us to stop excusing it, stop cloaking it in noble language, stop pretending it’s anything less than spiritual murder. And it is time for each of us to take responsibility.
Because every time a Yid indulges in character assassination, they desecrate Hashem’s Name. And every time they hold back, every time they protect another Yid’s dignity, they bring kavod Shamayim into this world.
So let us not congratulate ourselves that in our circles, boruch Hashem, there are no assassinations. There are. They just don’t leave bodies in the street. They leave hearts crushed, reputations obliterated, and neshamos broken.
The murder of Charlie Kirk is a reminder of the depths to which society can sink when hatred takes over. But it should also be a mirror for us to look into, honestly and painfully, at the kind of assassination that we have normalized. And perhaps this Elul and these Yomim Noraim, we can commit ourselves to ending this plague, before it claims its next victim.
Signed,
A. S.
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