The Lakewood community and Olam HaTorah mourn the petirah of Rabbi Eliezer Kuperman zt”l, a beloved and devoted member of the Bais Medrash Govoah family for more than half a century. He was 90 years old.
Rabbi Kuperman’s life was defined by humility, devotion, and a deep personal kesher with Rav Aharon Kotler zt”l. But perhaps more than anything, it was defined by his unwavering commitment to Torah and to the yeshiva he would come to call home.
Long before joining the yeshiva, Reb Eliezer would catch glimpses of Rav Aharon on the streets of Boro Park. He lived on 49th Street and 15th Avenue, and Rav Aharon had moved nearby, to 47th Street. The awe he felt for the rosh yeshiva was so great that he didn’t speak to him for years.
When Rav Aharon founded Chinuch Atzmai, Reb Eliezer, then a member of Zeirei Agudas Yisroel, got involved. As a budding accountant, he helped file for tax-exempt status for the American Friends of Chinuch Atzmai. He often found himself in a small Manhattan office with the rosh yeshiva, discussing fundraising logistics and watching the gadol hador make calls on behalf of Torah.
At the time, Reb Eliezer had left Torah Vodaas to support his family. He didn’t have a father, and the responsibility of parnassah fell to him. Still, he maintained sedarim early in the morning, at night, on weekends, and on Sundays. When his youngest sister became engaged and the financial burden lifted, his heart turned back to Torah. In 1959, he approached Rav Aharon and asked to join Bais Medrash Govoah.
Rav Aharon was surprised. “Aren’t you working?” he asked. Reb Eliezer replied that he wanted to dedicate at least a year to learning.
“You know,” Rav Aharon warned him, “it’s much easier to work than to learn. To learn takes a lot of application. Are you ready for that?”
He also insisted that a talmid must be holding on the right madreigah to succeed in the yeshiva. Reb Eliezer suggested a farher. Rav Aharon told him to come to Lakewood for Yom Kippur and he would try to find time then.
On Erev Yom Kippur, the rosh yeshiva had just received word that the Brisker Rov was niftar and couldn’t meet. Motzoei Yom Kippur, he still wasn’t available. They pushed it off again to Shemini Atzeres, when Reb Eliezer would be in Lakewood anyway for his future brother-in-law’s aufruf. Still, the farher never happened. The night before it was scheduled, Rav Aharon had been at a meeting in Manhattan about reparations funding. Sitting next to him was Rav Avrohom Jofen, whose run-down office in Novardok had become Reb Eliezer’s morning makom Torah.
Rav Aharon told Rav Jofen, “I have to rush home. I’m farhering a bochur tomorrow morning.”
“Who?” Rav Jofen asked.
“Eliezer Kuperman,” Rav Aharon replied.
“I know him! He learns in my office every morning.”
“Should I take him?”
“Yes. Take him.”
That night, Rav Aharon called his rebbetzin and asked her to call Reb Eliezer’s mother. The next morning, Reb Eliezer learned that he had been accepted to Bais Medrash Govoah.
When he arrived, Rav Aharon took him under his wing. He told him he must remain in yeshiva until Pesach without leaving, not even to visit his widowed mother. He arranged chavrusos for him, including one for reviewing shiur and another for learning on Shabbos. He even instructed his roommate to learn Tanach with him for ten minutes a day and to speak in learning before going to sleep. That winter, they completed 44 perakim in Sefer Yechezkel.
Rav Aharon didn’t just guide his learning. He guided his life. When Reb Eliezer began dating, Rav Aharon insisted on handling the shidduch process, saying, “You don’t have a father. I’ll be your father.” When Reb Eliezer found a young woman he was interested in, Rav Aharon asked to meet her father before giving his approval. He then guided the date for the wedding, suggesting Thursday night before the zeman started, so that talmidim returning from the mountains would be back in time for second seder on Sunday, thus avoiding bittul Torah.
On the day of the chasunah, Rav Aharon davened in the same minyan and arranged for Reb Eliezer to get an aliyah. He then called him multiple times that day, learned with him in his home, and gave him a chosson shmuess and farher. He attended the wedding and stayed through the main dish, a rare sign of how deeply he cared.
Throughout his years in the yeshiva, Rav Aharon remained personally invested in him. He noticed if Reb Eliezer missed shiur and he encouraged him to ask questions. Once, when Reb Eliezer posed a kasha in Yevamos during chazaras hashir, Rav Aharon got excited and called him names suggesting ignorance—but later, with great warmth, showed him the piece he had forgotten to say, resolving the question. Another time, a question reminded Rav Aharon of a deep yesod from a shiur in Nedarim. He ended chazaras hashir early, pulled Reb Eliezer into his office, and shared the full shiur in a rapid-fire ten-minute session filled with marei mekomos.
As a married man, Reb Eliezer returned to the yeshiva. Though kollel support was usually reserved for talmidim of four years, Rav Aharon offered to give him a kollel check. Only when his wife’s job became too demanding did he consider accepting support. Rav Aharon advised him on how to negotiate a raise and cared deeply for their well-being.
Eventually, Reb Eliezer transitioned into the financial office, where he would serve under Rav Aharon, Rav Shneur, and the current roshei yeshiva for over 50 years. Even while managing the yeshiva’s finances, he never stopped learning. He could be found in the bais medrash with a sefer open, embodying the spirit of Torah that had drawn him to Lakewood in the first place.
He was a man of quiet strength, humility, and boundless kindness. A true ohev labriyos and nechmad laMakom, he was beloved by all who knew him. More than a staff member, more than a talmid, Rabbi Eliezer Kuperman was part of the yeshiva’s very soul.
He is survived by his devoted wife, Mrs. Esther Kuperman, and their family.
The levayah will take place today at 3:00 p.m. at the Bendheim (Yoshon) Bais Medrash of Bais Medrash Govoah in Lakewood. Kevurah will follow in Lakewood.
Yehi zichro baruch.
{Matzav.com}