Michelle Obama is opening up about the relentless public scrutiny she says she endured during her years in the White House — particularly as a black woman — and how she used her wardrobe as a form of expression under that intense spotlight.
In her new book, The Look, the 61-year-old former first lady reflects on the unique pressures of being part of the country’s first black presidential couple, saying that every decision — including what she wore — carried symbolic weight. “We were all too aware that as a first black couple, we couldn’t afford any missteps. And that as a black woman, I was under a particularly white hot glare,” she wrote.
She added that the Obamas were not given the same leniency as other first families. “We didn’t get the grace that I think some other families have gotten,” she said, noting how political opponents weaponized race against them.
“Making a mistake in a political environment where you’re the first and people are where your opponents are using your race as a fear-based strategy to make you seem like the other, then everything matters,” she told Robin Roberts in an interview with ABC’s 20/20.
Obama explained that she initially avoided talking about fashion because she wanted to be known for her work, not her wardrobe. “I wanted the public to know me by the work that I did and not what I looked like,” she said. But over time, she began to see her fashion choices as “soft power.”
“You know, style and fashion, and how we show up in the world is an important way that we send a message,” she explained. “What you’re wearing says something about what you care about. It speaks to your background, your culture. So, I really thought about what I wanted to say.”
That consciousness extended beyond politics — it was also about representing the women who came before her. She said she often thought about “the mothers and grandmothers out there who I knew would be shaking their head if I didn’t show up right.”
Obama lamented how women, especially those in public life, are frequently judged by their appearance. “We live in a culture, sadly, where, you know, if somebody wants to go after a woman, the first thing they do is go after our looks, our size, our physical being, as a way to, you know, make us feel small, to keep us in place,” she said.
She also criticized the fashion industry for its exclusivity, saying some designers felt possessive of the First Lady role. “There’s a tendency for certain designers to feel like they own the first lady,” she said. “So like anything else, that kind of attitude blocks out opportunities from other designers. So I thought about that.”
Over the past year, Obama skipped two major events — Jimmy Carter’s funeral and President Trump’s inauguration — prompting speculation after she said she didn’t attend Trump’s swearing-in because she “didn’t know what to wear.” The absences fueled rumors about her marriage, which both she and Barack Obama publicly dismissed.
Now, Obama says she’s more at peace than ever. “You know, there’s something about the 60s. It is the best time of my life now that my daughters are launched and doing well,” she said. “My husband’s settled. There’s a certain freedom that I feel I’m at that stage in life where I can say, ‘Yeah, maybe I know a few things.’”
{Matzav.com}
