How a Dorm Room Turned Into a Lifeline for Shidduchim
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It began in Room 119 of the Irv dorm in Lakewood. To the casual eye, it was just another bochur’s room. But behind the door was something unusual: a “dating gemach.”
Not the kind that lends money — the kind that lends everything a bochur might need for a smoother date. Board games to break the ice. Watches to keep track of time. A Waze device for stress-free navigation. Even a notebook of budget-friendly venue ideas.
The concept was simple but brilliant. Elimelech Weinreb, then just a bochur himself, realized that the hardest part of dating often wasn’t finding a suggestion — it was figuring out the details. Word spread quickly, and soon Room 119 became the stop before the date — and sometimes the phone call during it.
What began as a dorm-room project became the Dating Resources Network: a hotline guiding thousands of dates each year, gemach branches in 16 cities, and a lifeline of reassurance for bochurim navigating shidduchim.
But another need soon emerged. Boys weren’t just asking where to take a girl — they were admitting they sometimes couldn’t afford to take her anywhere at all. Gas, tolls, meals, activities — the hidden costs of dating were stalling shidduchim before they even began.
That’s why the Dating Resources Network created a financial aid program. Today, hundreds of bochurim are able to date with dignity because of it. Each year, the network quietly covers hundreds of thousands of dollars in dating expenses so promising shidduchim can move forward.
Because every boy who dates is also a girl who dates. And when the pressure of cost is lifted, both can focus on what really matters.
From a dorm shelf in Lakewood to a nationwide network, the mission is the same: removing obstacles so that shidduchim can blossom.