A deeply moving story was shared this week during the weekly shiur delivered by the mashpia, Rav Meir Itamar Rosenbaum, author of Derech Emunah and nosi of the expansive chesed network Amud HaChesed – Lachmei Mordechai.
Rav Rosenbaum began by reflecting on Parshas Naso, read this past Shabbos, which speaks about an individual who takes upon themselves the vow of nezirus, refraining from wine and worldly indulgences. The Lev Simcha explains that the Torah calls such a person kadosh laHashem—holy to Hashem—even before they begin fulfilling the vow. The very act of accepting to improve oneself elevates a person in Shomayim to the level of holiness, even prior to action.
In that spirit, Rav Rosenbaum told the following story:
“Several years ago, in Bnei Brak, a Jew who had recently arrived from abroad came to a local shul to daven and noticed an old friend. Overjoyed, he approached and tried to engage him in conversation, but the friend did not respond. He only mumbled unintelligibly and gestured vaguely. Confused, the man waited until after davening.
“After davening, the friend approached him and said: ‘My dear friend, let me explain why I didn’t answer you earlier. As you know, I manage a cemetery. One day, I made a terrible mistake. I mistakenly authorized the burial of a deceased individual in a plot that didn’t belong to him. The grieving family, overwhelmed by their sorrow, didn’t notice. But I realized what I had done….and the potential legal implications were enormous. Fearing both prosecution and public outrage, I went late at night with several chevra kadisha members and moved the body to its correct resting place.
“‘I thought the matter was resolved and unknown to anyone. But days later, I got a call from a well-known secular attorney who wanted to purchase a grave in a section designated for shomrei Shabbos. I politely declined, explaining that the area was exclusively for Sabbath observant individuals as per halachah, and that this impacts the soul of the deceased.
“‘Suddenly, the attorney said: ‘Listen, I know exactly what happened with the mistaken burial. If you don’t sell me that plot, I’ll sue you and expose everything.” I was terrified. But I calmly told him I wouldn’t violate halachah no matter what. He warned me: “I’ll see you in court, and you’ll pay for this behind bars!”
“Sure enough, a few weeks later, I received a court summons. I was filled with dread. My livelihood was at risk, and I feared what was to come. I knew that Hashem runs the world and was sending me a message. So I turned to Hashem and said: “Ribbono Shel Olam, the hardest thing for me is to stop talking during davening. But I accept upon myself, from now on, not to say a word during tefillah in shul. Please, in this merit, help me—though I am unworthy.”
“Months passed. I never heard back from the court. Eventually, I discovered that the case had mysteriously been closed. To this day, I hold strong to that commitment—that’s why I didn’t speak to you in shul.”
“The visitor from abroad, moved to his core, thought to himself: “It’s been 20 years and I’ve never been blessed with children. This is hard for me too, but maybe this is what will bring my salvation.” He too took upon himself the same kabbalah—absolute silence during davening.
“This man,” Rav Rosenbaum shared, “is a prominent community activist from Canada whom I personally know. Wherever he goes, people surround him. And yet, from that day on, he did not utter a single word in shul. The difficulty was tremendous—people kept approaching him, asking for help, sharing news—but he stuck to it. Eventually, he moved to a different shul to avoid the constant interaction.
“And that very year—he was blessed with twins, against all odds. I witnessed it myself.”
Rav Rosenbaum concluded with the timeless words of Chazal: “’Open for Me an opening the size of a needle, and I will open for you an opening like a great hall’ (Shir HaShirim Rabbah 5). Why a needle? Because a needle pricks. It hurts. When a person takes upon themselves even a small but painful improvement, Hashem responds by opening all the gates of blessing. As the pasuk says: ‘Ki nezer Elokav al rosho—For the crown of his G-d rests upon his head.'”
{Matzav.com Israel}